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PICS: MIN RATNA BAJRACHARYA
IN THE DRIVING SEAT: Uma Khadka's husband poured kerosene on her and set her on fire. Despite the bandages in her hand, Uma is determined to learn driving and find a new life for herself.
Uma Khadka was 21 years old when she fled the conflict in her home village in Dolakha and came to Kathmandu. Unable to find any work, she landed up in one of Kathmandu's seedy 'dance bars'. She met a man there whom she married, but he soon started abusing her. One night, he poured kerosene on her and set her ablaze.

Uma was rescued by Rakshya Nepal, a charity dedicated to rehabilitating abused young women. Her body, hands and face are badly scarred but she is enrolled in driving lessons with eight other women rescued from violent husbands or abusive employers.

Sushmita Basnet lost her right arm when she was hit during crossfire in a battle at Mulkharka, Okhaldhunga five years ago. She was helicoptered out by the army and it took her one year to recuperate at Chhauni Hospital. Today, at 20, she has started rebuilding her life and, undaunted by her handicap, is taking tailoring lessons at Rakshya Nepal.

Rakshya Nepal was founded by Menuka Thapa, who herself sang at one of Kathmandu's dohori restaurants. After personally witnessing the mistreatment and abuse of women in the restaurant, Menuka was motivated to work against it.

Raskhya Nepal set up by Menuka Thapa who herself was a singer in a dohori restaurant in Kathmandu.
As a university student, Menuka also decided to research the plight of young women working in massage parlours, dance bars and restaurants for her master's thesis. Menuka found most girls to be between the ages of 11-25, but some were as old as 45. There are now 300 massage centres in Thamel alone, and each of them employs an average of 10 girls. Most are fronts for prostitution and the police don't try to stop them.

Menuka interviewed 200 women, who also filled out questionnaires. Her study shows that 80 percent of the women working in these parlours were directly affected by the conflict. They came to Kathmandu in search of work and fell into the capital's netherworld of commercial sex. The dancers, the masseurs and the waitresses mostly come from Dhading, Makwanpur, Kabhre, Sindhupalchowk, Nuwakot, Ramechhap, Sindhuli and Dolakha. A majority were married but are separated.

Rakshya Nepal tries to help the women earn an alternative living by providing skills training. Besides driving and tailoring, the group also trains the women to become beauticians. Thirty former dance restaurant women have quit their jobs and are working in beauty parlours in the city. There are currently 50 women undergoing various types
of free training at Rakshya Nepal's training centres.

KIRAN PANDAY
Suntali Rai fled Maoist recruitment in Ramechhap, was rescued from a massage centre in Thamel and is now a beautician trainee.
After her mother died, Suntali Rai was regularly abused by her stepmother. When the Maoists tried to recruit her into their militia, Suntali fled to Kathmandu. She worked in a businessman's house, but when he tried to molest her she fled and started to work in a massage parlour in Thamel. She ran away from there and came to Rakshya Nepal, where she is now a beautician trainee. She says: "Finally, I have the possibility of starting a new life."

Twenty-two year old Sunita Chaudhary's father died when her mother was pregnant. Sunita came to Kathmandu from Bara when her mother married another man. She was forced to work at a dohori restaurant after the man she married started beating her up. She is now working as a beautician trainee. "I have no relatives left, the didis at Rakshya Nepal are my family now," she says.

Menuka Thapa knows that her work is a drop in the ocean. The plight of the women also shows just how conflict leaves long-term effects. "The government has to formulate clear policies so this blatant exploitation of women stops," she told Nepali Times, "there is only so much people like us can do."

HELPLINES
Rakshya Nepal 01-6912734
protection_nepal[at]gmail.com

Saathi 01-5554560/5000063
saathi.ktm@gmail.com
http://www.saathi.org.np/


The Women's Foundation Nepal
01-4423257
tara[at]tara.wlink.com.np
http://www.womenepal.org

Maiti Nepal
01-4492904
maitinepal[at]wlink.com.np
http://www.maitinepal.org
Legal Aid and Consultancy Centre (LACC) 01-5543111
lacc[at]wlink.com.np
http://www.laccnepal.com

Forum for Women, Law and Development
(FWLD) 01-4242683
fwld[at]andolan.wlink.com.np
http://www.fwld.org.np/


1. Izzy, London
Hats off Raskhya Nepal. Can't this Leaders and Government hear the pain and difficulties of our Nepali sisters.Not only outside the country, within the country as well people are exploiting girls for sex money, taking advantages of their illiteracy and poverty. Instead of giving lip services, will our government be able to protect our Nepali sisters and make some difference..

2. Gyan, Sanepa
Congratulations Menukaji for doing so much with so little when most other people just sit on their butts and complain. Nepal needs more people like you.

3. Rima, Bansbari
Nepali mahilale aru mahila haru lai thulo maddat garera hami sabai lai prerana dinu bhayeko chha. Dherai dhanyabad!!

4. yuzeena, bhatbhteni
Well done Rakshya Nepal,I've heard a lot of your deeds and wants to thank you on behalf of all the nepali women.

5. Jay
Don't just thank her..Also ask her how you can help. I believe help is more what she needs than taalis and wah wahs..

6. T Rex, Gondwanaland
So, Jay, how much have you given?

7. Dee Aker, daker@sandigeo.edu (Joan B. Kroc Institute for Peace & Justice
With humility and appreciation, we wish Manuka well. She models the determination, hope and inspiration that deserves to be at the heart of the news. Thank your telling the world about her and Rakshya Nepal

8. Al, ISA
What happened to the abusers?

9. Bhola acharya, ktm, Nepal
It is hearttoeching story and it is for justice to those people who are really exploited by this discrimination.It helps tobe aware to affected group and policemakers.So I want to give thanks to your hardwork.

10. Naresh Rajbanshi, Biratnagar 15, Nepal
It(election of persident) is really an optimistic way for Nepalese thorough which we can go far ahead. But the same should be supported by everyone considering it as first step of properous Nepal.

11. C.K.Shrestha, Ktm.
Hats off to Menuka.Nepal needs more Menukas all the parlours doing dirty business in Thamel should be banned.Can Nepal Police do it? I dont think so because some amount of money earned from this dirty business goes to them.Civil society of Kathmandu is turning a blind eye to this menance.



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